We made yet another trip to Annapolis yesterday. We went there to meet with Melissa, our genetic counselor, and Dr. Sweeney, the doctor who diagnosed Lily. This trip served a different purpose than the original trip, but in some ways felt the same. I didn't surround myself with tear filled tissues in the car on the way there this time. I intentionally tried to create a calm environment and I chose to spend the drive time reading my bible and talking to my husband without distractions (which doesn't happen real often). As we got closer and closer to our destination, I could feel knots in my stomach as my anxiety increased. I tried to calm myself down as best I could, and I walked into that office feeling an overwhelming sense of deja-vu. I reminded myself that we were there for a different reason this time, and that hopefully this visit would not result in devastating news.
A couple of months ago, we learned that Lily is a big sister! This was actually quite a surprise to us, and yet, another reminder that God is always in control. He knew that the time was right for us to have this experience, and I have tried to embrace His plan wholeheartedly. We obviously want for our family to grow and we have been beyond thrilled, but also, terrified. I've never experienced such mixed feelings as I have over the last couple of months. I had never felt this kind of worry and anxiety with my last two pregnancies. I was blissfully ignorant to the possibilities in the past. I wish I could feel that way again. Naturally, we couldn't wait to see Dr. Sweeney again to, hopefully, get some reassurance that all is well so that I could calm down.
The 40 minute wait to be seen felt like an eternity, and I couldn't help but notice a sign in the lobby that apologized for the long wait and explained that the providers in this particular office are often delivering news that their patients may need extra time to digest. I was brought back to our experience receiving news like this the last time we were here, and I definitely appreciated being given what felt like all the time in the world with our doctor, so I guess I could respect the wait time. I didn't really have a choice anyway.
We finally met with Melissa, then Dr. Sweeney. I can't say enough great things about each of them. They have both been so wonderful with us, and always very respectful, patient, and thorough. This experience was no different. Dr. Sweeney spent a great deal of time with us, and was very careful to share every detail that he could at this point. He assured us that everything looks "perfect", which instantly brought tears to eyes. I can't seem to make a trip to Annapolis without crying, but this time, I cried tears of relief, not despair.
Dr. Sweney told us that he always feels worried and nervous about "appointments like this" after the "disaster" we had last time, but that he was extrememly pleased with what he saw. This is the first time I have disagreed with him. I do not believe that our last pregnancy was a disaster. I prefer to think of it as a blessing, although I recognize that it was anything but perfect, medically speaking. Either way, I appreciate all that he has done for us and all that he promises to do this time. It looks like we will be making a trip to Annapolis every month to continue to monitor the baby.
I certainly don't want to spend too much time using Lily's blog to talk about this pregnancy, but it really has made me think even more about her and my pregnancy with her. This baby will never take her place. Whatever transpires over the next six months is outside of my control, and in the hands of the One I trust and rely on most. I will continue to seek peace and comfort on a daily basis because I know that is what He wants for me.
I was reminded of this bible verse last Sunday in church and used it to ease my mind in the car yesterday.
Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God. Philippians 4:6
This will be my mantra.
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